I have started dating a girl 20 who really likes me. The first time we had sex, it was great, and very comfortable. However, it is gradually start ing to feel more and more uncomfortable for me, and actually quite painful. I am quite a confident person, but this has hit me. What should I do?
Skip navigation! Story from Sex. You get to decide what "counts. It's a social construct we made up, and the person you are after sex after is the same as before sex, just like you're the same person before an after you ate ice cream for the first time. That said, you don't want to get a brain freeze the first time you eat ice cream. And you probably want your first time having sex , whatever that means to you, to be fun and pleasurable for both you and your partner.